What are the Five Fundamental Rules of Disciplined Parenting?
What is discipline? According to www.merriam-webster.com it is "training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character". No where does it say thing about "spanking" or violence of any kind. Let the record show that I am a "disciplinarian". Let me stress one point, discipline truly starts with the parent(s). It is so easy to be lazy and let things go. But we must train our children to have the behavior, morals, and values that will stay with him/her for the rest of their life. Early on, we teach our children to respect authority in all its forms and that there are rules to abide by in this life and if we cannot, there are consequences. We do this by setting rules, boundaries, and expectations for the best behavior possible. It is a tedious and monotonous job, to say the least. However, when one is diligent, we instill in our child self-confidence, self-control, a higher I.Q.and most importantly we produce upstanding, productive members of society. Allow me to list and elaborate (what I believe to be) the basic guidelines.
1. EATING-Consistent mealtimes with the proper portions. Fpr ages 2-5 year old should eat 2oz or proten, 2 cups of dairy, and 1 to 3 cups
of vegetables and\or Fruit., For the next age group one should just doub;e that.almost.
2. SLEEPING-90% of parents think their children get enough sleep, but most do not. Including naps, 1 to 3 year olds should get at least
12-14 hours of sleep per 24 hour period. 3 to 5 year olds 11-13 hours. 5 to 10 year olds should get 10-11 hours, and blah blah
blah...adults should get 7 to 9 hours.
3. SOCIALIZING-THe opportunity to get out and amidst others for physical activity, socialism, and stimelation is highly necessary for a
number of reasons:More llikely to be aggressive and misbehave in public. Ssocializing a child gets them prepared for school aand
they are more likely to do well there.
4. EARLY LEARNING-There are four areas of learning that your child must experience in order to have a fully developed braain: Visual and
Auditory Learning, Gross motor skills, and fine motor
5. BEHAVIOR-Must know right from wrong, what is expected from them and the consequences when necessary.
These Five Fundamental Rules of Disciplined Parenting that I have just laid out are extremely interrelated. Without engaging stimulation, providing healthy nutritrition, the right amount of sleep, and socialization, behavior problems will definately persist increasingly. Likewise, if the disciplined parent does not deal with the behavior issues consistently and effectively, there will also be problems with initiating bedtimes, getting along with others, and sitting still long enough to learn. Moms and Dad's have been given the responsibility of another human life(s). What we teach in the first few years will mold them and make them into what and who they grow up to be.
Let us not forget the most important rule of parenting: Love. It is so impertinant that we remember to hug, kiss, to cuddle , to speak kindly and with respect. Children need love, routine, consistency, repetition, praise, boundaries, and assurance. While parents need (in order to give children what they need): Time, commitment, energy, patience, persistence, and perspective. This is what you will gain: Greater willpower, more education, better understanding, greater sense of support for one another and your kids. Good luck.